The person who asked this question just doesn’t understand S. Korea at all. S. Korea doesn’t have effeminate guys at all. The guys may be thin. There are guys that may be so pretty they look like a girl, but they are all guys. It is just a product of genes that they look so good. Homosexuality, transgenderism, and things like that are not part of the Korean culture. Men are men, and women are women. They are not confused in S. Korea. They understand biology.
I saw one gay bar in S. Korea. It was in Itaewon. Itaewon is where all the foreigners are. The highest rate of crime is in Itaewon. Even in Itaewon, the gay bar was kind of hidden. I didn’t actually see it, but I saw a small sign saying there was a gay bar upstairs among several other signs for that building. One Korean guy said to me that they exist, but they are very much a minority and are hidden. It is just not acceptable behavior in S. Korea.
You have to understand how S. Korea works. S. Korea has one of the lowest crime rates in the world. They have an extremely high percentage of Christians, and almost as many Buddhists. They are a very moral thinking people overall. There is a church on every block. There are crosses rising above the city everywhere. The largest church in the world is in Seoul S. Korea, a Pentecostal church in Youido. The Presbyterian church is a huge force in the S. Korean government.
If people are in the public eye in S. Korea, they had better be squeaky clean. If you are a politician, an actor, in K-Pop, or in any other type of music, and you do something that is possibly illegal, possibly immoral, possibly dishonest, etc, you will be kicked out of the public eye. A year or two ago, some K-Pop singer got caught with marijuana in Japan, and he had been one of the most popular K-Pop artists, but they kicked him out. A few years before that, one of their presidents committed suicide because he had done something dishonest and couldn’t handle the feeling of guilt. President Park, their woman president, was actually impeached. When I asked people about it, they said, “Well, we really don’t know what she did, but her friends are very dishonest bad guys, so she must be too.” Koreans are serious about trying to draw the line strictly. There was a demonstration once close to my house, and I wrote a blog about it. I was having a hard time figuring out what the demonstration was about. Come to find out, it was a demonstration against corruption in government. They don’t put up with even a little sin anywhere. They want a clean, pure country.
As far as the gender divide, they are so secure in the fact that men are men and women are women that it is still funny for a man to dress up like a women. They still do it jokingly. When I was in high school in America in the 1970’s, sometimes at the pep rallies, they did things like that because it was considered funny. However, if you do it now, someone could become offended. In S. Korea, they still do it as a joke. No one is going to be offended because they know men are men and women are women. There is no confusion like in America.
As I said, there may be guys that are actually pretty in S. Korea. Many of them become K-Pop artists. In ancient Korea, the Bekjae people who lived around Busan had a lot of what my daughter calls “pretty boys.” They were guys who were so pretty they could have been women. They were knights, and they were tough. They were masters at all the martial arts. Some of them wore makeup, but they were men through and through. The Korean culture doesn’t have this macho man image that America has. In America, if you are a real man, you don’t wear pink, you wear blue jeans, you might wear cowboy boots, and you might run around with dirty fingernails and messed up hair. However, in Korea, none of that would fly. You don’t have to be unkempt to be a strong man, and Korean men know that. All the S. Korean men are considered part of the S. Korean military. When they are in their early twenties, they have to go for active duty. They learn a lot of self discipline. When they get out of the military, they are considered in the reserves the rest of their lives. Many S. Korean men have black belts in taekwondo or Gumdo, the S. Korean martial arts. You can’t be a sissy and be good at those.