Rules For a Happy Life, Part 8

Yes, there are seven more “Rules for a Happy Life” before this one. If this is the first one you have seen, you are all the way at the end because this is the last in the series. I will have to think of something else to help you guys after this, and I have a busy brain, so I am sure I will think of something good. Tomorrow is the last day I will be blogging in Korea. They turn my internet off the morning after tomorrow, and in a couple of days, I will be on the plane for America. We can’t use the internet while the plane is in the air. That means I won’t be able to blog again until I get to America after tomorrow. That means the first part of next week. Be sure and check back the first of next week, and I will have more interesting things for you to see. In the meantime, while I am not able to send anything out, you could be looking at blogs you haven’t read yet because I have lots of them. However, for now, I need to finish “Rules for a Happy Life.”

71. Go to sleep at night. You will be sorry the next day if you don’t. When I was in school, if I didn’t sleep at night, I couldn’t function in my classes the next day. When I went to work everyday, I learned to go to bed at 9:00 every night so I could get up and feel good enough to go to work the next day. When I was in elementary school, my parents gave me the bedtime of 8:00, and the older i got, the later and later they pushed my bedtime. However, when I began working, I realized it was up to me to keep that job, and if I didn’t sleep well enough, I couldn’t function the next day. You don’t have to make your bed time 9:00 like I did, but it isn’t a bad idea. We all need enough sleep to function at our peak. My Korean son in law works a really strange schedule. He doesn’t get home until 12:00 at night sometimes, and he is so wound up he can’t sleep, so he sits on the couch, first eating the dinner I cooked, and then eating candy and watching TV. He may be there several hours, and then wants to sleep all day the next day until it is time for him to go to work again. Our bodies need rest and will take the rest if we don’t give them rest. If we compartmentalize and organize we should be able to find a way to get a good eight hours of sleep at night so we can function at our peak the next day.

When I was in school, I didn’t always get enough rest, and when a germ was being passed around, I was the first one to pick it up. I got sick just too much and ended up in bed for a year right after I graduated. The doctor said if I had eaten better and rested more, I would have been strong enough not to pick the germ up that made me so sick. As it was, I made medical history in Oklahoma City because I was so sick. Go to bed at night and eat things full of vitamins and minerals. Don’t fad diet. I used to skip meals. Don’t do that either. Stay strong. If you need to lose weight, use your head about it. I have learned the best avenues for lose weight without getting sick, so I will blog about it some day.

72. Clean up after yourself. Don’t expect others to do it. It isn’t fair to expect other people to clean up messes that you made. When I was growing up, it seemed that I was always cleaning up after my brothers and sisters. I waited on my dad. I waited on my older sister. People treated me like a hand maiden. My mother cleaned her bathroom, and I cleaned the family bathroom. My older sister was busy and didn’t have to help. The boys were boys, so they didn’t have to do it either. I woke up early and went to school everyday, and came home and baked for my brothers. I helped my mother make dinner, helped her do the laundry, and did the dishes. Every Saturday, I had to wake up early to clean the house. Everyone left their stuff laying around the house, and I was expected to make everything look clean. If they left their books in the living room, I put the books in the nearest drawer so they could find them. I put their shoes in their rooms, etc. I vacuumed the living room and swept the other floors. I made beds.

When I had my own kids, I tried to make them more responsible for themselves because I didn’t want just one child waiting on all the others. I told them that if they made a mess, it was their responsibility to clean it up themselves. It taught them responsibility. I wanted them to think twice before making a mess in the house or making a mess in their lives. If they understood that they were responsible for their mistakes, I felt they would try harder to do the right thing, and they did. My oldest son became like a cop making sure everyone cleaned up after themselves. He was always reminding them they were responsible for their own mistakes and messes. He is now a D. A. He stands up in court doing the same thing to the rest of the world now. He learned his lesson well. His house is immaculate too. He was always a great example for the other kids who have also fallen in line. Be responsible for yourself. Clean up your own messes. Don’t expect anyone else to do it for you.

73. Make friends and be a friend. It is always nice to have someone around to talk to that you can depend on to care about you. Reach out. Smile. Talk to people. They like it. Invite people to do things with you. Invite everyone to play board games. My students told me that I really knew how to throw a party because I often gave student parties too. I would invited a group into my house. I made sure they had cookies or something else good to eat. It doesn’t have to be complicated or expensive. I would break out the board games like Scrabble, Monopoly, Clue, Dominoes, Apples to Apples, etc. Then, I would also play music int he background. We could play at the kitchen table or sit on the floor around the coffee table. Everyone has always enjoyed my parties. They loved homemade cookies! I got to know them and made friends.

If they had problems, they knew they could call on me to help. One young man called me up once because he was a long way from home, and he had lost his place to live through no fault of his own, but he didn’t have enough money to rent another place. I called up a friend who had a spare bedroom and lived alone who had also come to my parties. They guy was thrilled to have a room mate. I had a mat that they could put on the floor for the student to sleep on. Everything worked; the two of them also became great friends. That student graduated and went to graduate school and has a good job now. When my car sold, he is the one who sold my car for me. I took care of him, and he took care of me.

That is what happens when you treat people right. In order to have friends, you must first be a friend. Don’t take advantage of anyone, but if you have treated people well, when you really need it, they will treat you well too. I could tell you about lots of my friends, but I chose this one because he sold my car for me just this week and made my life and someone else’s much better. I have gotten people jobs. I have given them rides in my car when they needed it, etc.

One young man saw someone fall on the railroad tracks and get run over by the train and was completely shaken up. He called me crying and shaking, and I picked him up in my car and kept him with me until his nerves were calm enough to go home. A girl’s parents were trying to force her into marrying someone she didn’t want to marry, so she didn’t want to go home, so I let her live with me and helped her find a job. The girl introduced me to her parents at her wedding. Staying with me, she could marry the man she wanted. Her parents were very happy I helped her because she found a much better husband than the one they wanted her to marry. I found another girl who was passing out in the street; she had left home and was in financial trouble. She was sleeping in the subway and scared of someone who wanted money from her. She was passing out from hunger. I paid the person she was scared of. I took he home and fed her. I took her to the doctor to make sure she wasn’t sick and it was only hunger, and it was only hunger. I tried to help her sort her problems out. I helped her get a job. She turned around and paid me back every penny I paid to help her, and later she came back to visit again wanting to tell me again how grateful she was. I could just keep tell you, but these people became my friends, and if I need help, they help me.

If you don’t know how to do something, maybe your friend does.

74. Two heads are better than one. I don’t have all the answers all the time. I don’t purport to have all the answers all the time. I try hard to find the answers to my problems. I try hard to sort things out. I read my Bible religiously and take Jesus’ advice. However, sometimes something happens that is just so mind boggling that I don’t know what to do. This move we are making to America is driving me crazy. However, there are three of us working at it. I know a lot of things I can do. I have moved many times, but never from Korea to America. My daughter and Korean son in law have good ideas, and I listen to them. Just in the last couple of days, my daughter discovered an app on her phone. Someone from her work told her. We had been trying to sell things rather than have to throw them away, but no one was buying anything except my car and a few books. However, my daughter found an app and began advertising things, and they sell almost immediately when she put the add there. I would never have known about that add if I had been making all the decisions. My son in law has been working with a shipping company and trying to get the best deal to send some of our things to America. I don’t know anything about Korean shipping companies. He is going to get it there cheaper and quicker than I could. I am the one who knows how to pack because I have been doing it my whole life. I am the one who must go because only I can drive and because no one except me knows anything about America. They look to me for advice about all kinds of things, but there are things I don’t know, and luckily there are three of us. We have three heads working on this move. If I had done it all myself, it would have been much harder. When my kids were small, I was in charge, but now, I share the duties with my grown kids.

This is a little tablet from my purse. It is full of phone numbers, addresses, times, vocabulary words, people’s names, etc.

75. Write it down before you forget it. Not many people can remember everything on the spot. I learned a trick many years ago. I began carrying a little tablet with paper in my purse. If I needed to remember a date, a time, a vocabulary words, etc. I wrote it down on the spot, and then I wouldn’t forget. It is one of he ways I learned to speak Japanese. Every time I heard the same word again and again, I wrote it down, looked it up, and memorized it. After that, after I learned all the words I kept hearing people repeat, if I heard a word I had never heard before, I wrote it down, looked it up, and memorized it. I learn more, remember more, and stay better organized by writing things down.

76. Never leave your car in a parking garage without writing down where it is. I had to learn this the hard way. I was living in Romania where there were no parking garages. I wasn’t used to being around parking garages. I visited a friend in North Carolina, and we left her car in a parking garage and went into a big building. When we came back, we couldn’t find her car. We had to get someone who worked there to drive us around and look for the car because the garage was just too big and had too many floors to find it otherwise. I hadn’t even thought of writing the number down of where the car was because I never had to before. However, since that time, I always write that number down and can find my car easily every time. When my daughter got big enough to help me, she wanted to take a picture of the number with her phone to make it easier, so I let her. Here in Korea, there are parking garages everywhere. If I didn’t already understand to take note of that number, we would have been lost in the parking garage many times, but because of what happened in North Carolina when my daughter was still a baby, we are never lost in the parking garage now. Write down where you leave your car. Either that, or take a picture of it with your phone.

77. Listen to God. This is the last, but the most important. Go to church every Sunday. Go to Bible classes. Read your Bible yourself. Think about what is in the Bible. Try to do the things that Jesus tells you to do. You will never be sorry. God made us. He knows how we are put together. He loves us, and he wants us to be happy. The Bible is one of the best books in the world if you want rules for a happy life. My daughter follows a psychologist from Canada online. He tells everyone he isn’t a Christian, but he knows what kinds of advice are given int he Bible, and he says it is all Scientifically, Psychologically, and Medically sound. He recommends people follow the rules in the Bible even if they aren’t Christians because they are good for us. I have been a Christian since I was 15 years old, and I began studying the Bible before that or I wouldn’t have made the decision to become a Christian. Listening to God has given me a solid anchor that I can trust to always be right. If I don’t know, God can help. Sometimes it is hard to do what is written there. It isn’t easy to forgive when you have been hurt. It isn’t easy not to scream and get angry with people. However, the things that God asks us to do give us a happy life. He hasn’t given us anything that we can’t do if we don’t try. Read and study the Bible. Understand what is there. Don’t let others tell you and not read it for yourself. Perhaps they are mistaken or perhaps they are just trying to control you. Perhaps they are smart, good people too, but you won’t know if you don’t read the Bible for yourself. Don’t be rebellious because it gets you nowhere except strife and troubles. Try to know what the right thing is, and try to do it. God to church. Follow God. Click “like” on what he says because he loves you and gives the best advice.

I appreciate my Korean son in law for finding this and asking me to put it on my blog.

This is the end of this blog, but it is not the end of my blogs. There will be more. As I have been packing and going through things, I am finding things that I wrote a long time ago and just put away like I had done with my “Rules for a Happy Life” that my son in law found and told me to put on my blog. I have always been a thinker and a writer. I have more things you will enjoy, so stay with me.

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